how far will you let yourself go if you were in a relationship? i mean physically. i see this boy on the bus today who lives near my apartment. he was somewhat fit (fit scale 5/10) when i last saw him months ago. 5/10 looked as if he's piled on a couple of kilograms over winter. i bet he's been in a snuggly relationship and spent the entire winter stuffing his face with his boyfriend in between saying "i-love-you".
i've been down that wet and slippery road like 5/10 before. its so easy to feel lovely and wanted and before you know it, you lose consciousness of your gay body image. then the security of love replaces your bony ass and slim face with another bottle of wine and big bars of fruit and nut choc. and before you know it, you look like the titanic in photos. i swear this was how i looked in one of my relationships. maybe it was a ploy because your partner wants you all for himself so he doesn't tell you that leonardo and kate are about to climb on your ass and the film crew are waiting.
the difficult part in these situations is how do you tell your friends who are in relationships that they are starting to pile it on? you just want the best for your friends and don't want them to be in a situation where:
a. assuming they break up (which most often happens somewhere down the road), that there has been too much damage done to your friend's body and the long slippery road to recovery may involve them starving themselves and living in a gym 24/7.
b. your friend starts growing out of those nice clothes you bought them as presents. unless you have consciously been buying them kaftans every birthday and christmas.
c. you feel guilty serving sweets or dishing out seconds when you host dinner because the thought of them getting any bigger is starting to give you sleepless nights.
d. you get accused for having gay body image issues because you can still wear the jeans you bought a year ago.
being a bad liar, i've just found myself having to say quite brutally to my friends when they are in that state, that its time to put the twisties away. and hope they still love me after that.
4 spew back:
Of course. I've just come out of a four year relationship - even if it doesn't, actually, feel like it. I guess because we never lived together - and I'm in my extra five kilos relationship body type.
Time to hit the footpath, I guess. Time to get my sweet tooth back into abstinence mode, for sure.
Go the brutally honest - that's what friends are for; to tell you what you don't want to hear but need to hear!
Fin 24/11
OMG. ive juts got in form mox . and like everyoen's tellign me how much weight i've put on and stuff. so terribleyrg depprssing. but ohewll., i shawlll asry and exrercise wehn i return to perht andw e';ll see whawt happens. should be copol.. wish i wasn't so fatt. tis/ just terrible. but i dunno. fells lgood.. so yeah. io think.
fletch: i say that's a plan to let the candy go to get some new mancandy.
kenny: spoken like a true psych. except because i'm in PR, people just think i'm being a bitch!! lol. good luck with the exams.
morti: if food prices start to ease up in the next couple of weeks, chances are you've started your diet. LOL....
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